lilly in the rose garden

~My intent is never to incite an internet fight, as my complaints stem from the fights that have divided the fashion. ~

Lolita is great. The fashion is great, the people are great. Public reaction can be not-so-great. Prices suck. But generally there’s something for everyone, right?

I have been a Lolita for several years now, and I have learned to take the bad with the good and move on with my days, but every now and then something sticks in my mind.

Thus, this list was born. The obvious complaints are, of course:

  • Fat Shaming. I know that brand is usually one-size-fits-all. The people that wear it, however, are not. Stop hating and allow people the resources to find clothes that not only fits their body type but also their individual style philosophy.
  • End the hate on budget-lolis. Not everyone’s wallet is as bottomless as your own.

But also, I’ve noticed this attitude from people within Lolita circles that you have to constantly prove yourself. The inner circle, the leaders, won’t accept you as a “””true”””” Lolita unless you are in the frills everytime you are in their presence. Cosplayer? Nope. Gyaru? Nope. You are not allowed to do/wear multiple things and still be a “”””””true””””””” Lolita.

I get it, if someone’s wearing a distinctly different style, it is hard to tell if they are indeed into Lolita. But if you are part of the local Lolita group, post in it occasionally, post Lolita coords, and run panels on Lolita fashion, it is pretty annoying to have some other person talk down to you and explain what Lolita is. But at least they’re talking to you. Some people won’t even talk to me unless I have proven to them that, I indeed, am a local Lolita. And even then, the brand elitism comes into play so I’m still in the wrong.

It is very hard to engage in local meetups and events when this is the attitude presented.

this is just me complaining

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matryoshkaRose~ (the former lillymelody)
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